The Eye of the Beholder
Samantha Brick has recently made herself the talk of the internet, television and newspapers. In case you haven’t heard Samantha is a journalist who has been exposing the downsides of being beautiful, as in, her beauty. Brick claims that she has suffered throughout her life especially from jealous women who are scared to leave their husbands in the presence of the hotness that she radiates and that they don’t like her simply because she is pretty. According to Brick, men fall at her feet as soon as she enters the room, and Brick herself says that 10 out of 10 men at a dinner party would find her attractive.
I’d never heard of Brick before, but her articles in the Daily Mail on the subject have now made her a household name and made the Mail over £300,000, her article has now been read by over 1.5 million. Brick has managed to get her face all over the internet and get herself on the television talk shows simply by saying that she thinks women hate her for being pretty. But although many people, and there have been thousands of comments about the article, have criticized her for not exactly being the goddess that she thinks she is, there have been many people who have said that the reason Brick is never asked to be a bridesmaid (Brick claims it is because she would outshine the bride) is because her vain attitude and terrible personality are the reasons friends just don’t want her around.
When I originally read the article I thought that the journalist who wrote it must have been setting her up, and then I realized that the article was actually written by Samantha Brick. Brick was fully aware that this article was going to attract attention. Although she claims she didn’t write the article for publicity reasons there are many who doubt the validity of those claims. When the thousands of comments started to pour in calling her vain, narcissistic, having a superiority complex, and some far worse comments focusing on her looks, Brick simply claimed that, “the bile just proves my point.” By this stage even The Real Housewives of Orange County were shocked by Brick’s narcissisim.
I’ve no doubt that the Daily Mail knew exactly what they were doing when putting out this article, they knew the sort of reaction it would provoke from people. The Daily Mail is a newspaper with a showbiz section that pours scorn on celebs every day whenever they gain or lose a few pounds. The Daily Mail comments section on the celeb articles overflow with criticism from members of the public whenever a new photo of Jennifer Aniston, Victoria Beckham or Kim Kardashian is published. It really is a place to vent the hate from the safety of the anonymity that the internet provides. But Samantha Brick is really obtaining the brunt of it this week, the celebs should be so lucky as to obtain the publicity she has created from that one ‘mirror mirror on the wall’ article.
This entire Samantha Brick controversy brought to mind a conversation I had once in a restaurant with a woman who I thought was very pretty and some would say beautiful. At one point during the conversation she was talking about the problems in her life and came out with the line, “Beautiful women have problems too.” I was kind of taken aback that someone would describe themselves as beautiful and my reply was something along the lines of, “You know I’ve known plenty of women who could be classed as beautiful but I’ve never actually heard any of them call themselves that.” The woman wasn’t taken aback or offended or defensive in the least but simply said, “Well why not? Intelligent people call themselves intelligent, sporty people call themselves sporty. People are always listing their attributes, what’s wrong with describing yourself as beautiful. Maybe more people should think this way and not be scared to call themselves beautiful if they think they are.” I could see her reasoning, sort of.
Is it because beauty is regarded as superficial that we are slightly, or in Brick’s case, hugely offended by these remarks? Beauty may be regarded as superficial but society in general regards it as hugely important. Many are under the impression that beauty easily opens doors that would normally remain shut to others. Artists spend their lifetime trying to capture beauty on canvas, people want to be surrounded by beautiful objects and live in beautiful homes. We are told by the media the definition of what is and isn’t regarded as beautiful. Some people go through their entire lives feeling tortured simply because they do not consider themselves as fitting into society’s definition of beautiful, and this can cause body disorder problems and depression. But the word ‘beauty’ itself is valueless and depends on the person who is looking, and of course in some cases, judging.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is completely true, even if that beholder is yourself. The problem for Samantha Brick is not that she said that she thinks she is very pretty but that she said that she thinks everyone else thinks she is pretty, that her beauty is envied by other women and it has caused her major problems throughout her life. We can consider ourselves beautiful if we want, and if beauty is in the eye of the beholder then who is to say otherwise. But it may not be a good idea to go shouting it in newspapers, not unless you want people to reflect back on what you have said and judge you by their own definition of beauty.
Tags: Beauty, controversy, daily mail, judging, pretty, samantha brick, society