The Eye of the Beholder

Samantha Brick has recently made herself the talk of the internet, television and newspapers. In case you haven’t heard Samantha is a journalist who has been exposing the downsides of being beautiful, as in, her beauty. Brick claims that she has suffered throughout her life especially from jealous women who are scared to leave their husbands in the presence of the hotness that she radiates and that they don’t like her simply because she is pretty. According to Brick, men fall at her feet as soon as she enters the room, and Brick herself says that 10 out of 10 men at a dinner party would find her attractive.

I’d never heard of Brick before, but her articles in the Daily Mail on the subject have now made her a household name and made the Mail over £300,000, her article has now been read by over 1.5 million. Brick has managed to get her face all over the internet and get herself on the television talk shows simply by saying that she thinks women hate her for being pretty. But although many people, and there have been thousands of comments about the article, have criticized her for not exactly being the goddess that she thinks she is, there have been many people who have said that the reason Brick is never asked to be a bridesmaid (Brick claims it is because she would outshine the bride) is because her vain attitude and terrible personality are the reasons friends just don’t want her around.

When I originally read the article I thought that the journalist who wrote it must have been setting her up, and then I realized that the article was actually written by Samantha Brick. Brick was fully aware that this article was going to attract attention. Although she claims she didn’t write the article for publicity reasons there are many who doubt the validity of those claims. When the thousands of comments started to pour in calling her vain, narcissistic, having a superiority complex, and some far worse comments focusing on her looks, Brick simply claimed that, “the bile just proves my point.” By this stage even The Real Housewives of Orange County were shocked by Brick’s narcissisim.

I’ve no doubt that the Daily Mail knew exactly what they were doing when putting out this article, they knew the sort of reaction it would provoke from people. The Daily Mail is a newspaper with a showbiz section that pours scorn on celebs every day whenever they gain or lose a few pounds. The Daily Mail comments section on the celeb articles overflow with criticism from members of the public whenever a new photo of Jennifer Aniston, Victoria Beckham or Kim Kardashian is published. It really is a place to vent the hate from the safety of the anonymity that the internet provides. But Samantha Brick is really obtaining the brunt of it this week, the celebs should be so lucky as to obtain the publicity she has created from that one ‘mirror mirror on the wall’ article.

This entire Samantha Brick controversy brought to mind a conversation I had once in a restaurant with a woman who I thought was very pretty and some would say beautiful. At one point during the conversation she was talking about the problems in her life and came out with the line, “Beautiful women have problems too.” I was kind of taken aback that someone would describe themselves as beautiful and my reply was something along the lines of, “You know I’ve known plenty of women who could be classed as beautiful but I’ve never actually heard any of them call themselves that.” The woman wasn’t taken aback or offended or defensive in the least but simply said, “Well why not? Intelligent people call themselves intelligent, sporty people call themselves sporty. People are always listing their attributes, what’s wrong with describing yourself as beautiful. Maybe more people should think this way and not be scared to call themselves beautiful if they think they are.” I could see her reasoning, sort of.

Is it because beauty is regarded as superficial that we are slightly, or in Brick’s case, hugely offended by these remarks? Beauty may be regarded as superficial but society in general regards it as hugely important. Many are under the impression that beauty easily opens doors that would normally remain shut to others. Artists spend their lifetime trying to capture beauty on canvas, people want to be surrounded by beautiful objects and live in beautiful homes. We are told by the media the definition of what is and isn’t regarded as beautiful. Some people go through their entire lives feeling tortured simply because they do not consider themselves as fitting into society’s definition of beautiful, and this can cause body disorder problems and depression. But the word ‘beauty’ itself is valueless and depends on the person who is looking, and of course in some cases, judging.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is completely true, even if that beholder is yourself. The problem for Samantha Brick is not that she said that she thinks she is very pretty but that she said that she thinks everyone else thinks she is pretty, that her beauty is envied by other women and it has caused her major problems throughout her life. We can consider ourselves beautiful if we want, and if beauty is in the eye of the beholder then who is to say otherwise. But it may not be a good idea to go shouting it in newspapers, not unless you want people to reflect back on what you have said and judge you by their own definition of beauty.

 

 

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Garry Crystal is a freelance writer living in the UK. His short stories and articles have appeared in print and online including Expats Post, The Andirondack Review, Turnrow Journal, Roadside Fiction and Orato. His first book Leaving London is available on Amazon and other retailers now. View My Profile

  • Cher Duncombe

    You always come up with such interesting stories, Garry, not to mention ‘beautifully’ written. 🙂

    I have seen what I would describe as beauty in the lines of aged people, both men and women. And sometimes it is something off-beat about a person that makes them beautiful to me. For example, I think Steve Buscemi and Christopher Walken are beautiful, not in the classic sense but they have the “it” factor. It’s the same with women. There is an intangible to beauty and Samantha Brick has a few things to learn.

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    • I have a thing for Alan Rickman. No judgements! 😉

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    • Absolutely, beauty often usually comes far from the inside than what’s going on outside. The actors you mentioned there have character, it’s nothing to with age or beauty, it’s a confidence I think as well.

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  • Interesting article Garry. I had to look up Samantha Brick to see what she looks like because I had never heard of her, and personally I think she looks like an average person. She, like the rest of us is a bit nutty. We all have an internal little voice that tells us how we are, and her internal voice seems to be working for her by creating all sorts of buzz for herself.
    I guess when you put out into cyberspace some outrageous statement like “every man wants me because I’m beautiful,” then the inhabitants of cyberspace are going to try and call you on it. Thus causing buzz as an after effect.
    The world does judge us on how we look, and we have no control over that. But if you want fame and fortune it looks like it helps to be a bit more crazy than the average writer.

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    • Dan its been hard to avoid this woman all week, she’s everywhere. The newspapers are having a field day with this and it seems they won’t be happen until she’s hanging on a cross because that’s the way the media is. You can probably expect her now to become the latest “woman you love to hate” on talk shows, newspaper columns etc…if the media can give the public someone to vent against then it’s job done, and if a person puts themselves up as this hate figure then so much the better, guaranteed publicity.

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  • You nailed it: “The problem for Samantha Brick is not that she said that she thinks she is very pretty but that she said that she thinks everyone else thinks she is pretty, that her beauty is envied by other women…” I’m all for a healthy sense of self-esteem, but when it transgresses into arrogance that is when things turn ugly.

    Great job on this; it would have been so easy to just lambaste her and take the piss, but your piece was quite fair.

    (Also, I tried to click 10 stars but it gave me 9.5. It’s just b/c it hates me since I’m so beautiful. AHAHAHHA!)

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    • I’ve got to say I think a therapist would have a field with Brick if she actually believes this and isn’t doing it for the controversy and publicity. If she takes a real look at why her friends avoid her and it has nothing to with her looks then what is she left with…look into the abyss Samantha Brick.

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  • “But the word ‘beauty’ itself is valueless and depends on the person who is looking, and of course in some cases, judging.” -- I couldn’t agree more! I saw articles floating by about Samantha, but I didn’t bother to read them hehe.

    I had several conversations with a friend regarding “beauty” and it often starts when she suddenly yells “OMG she is gorgeous”…usually I go like “Oh yeah, she’s cute” then she goes ” NO way! She is like totally hot”…I’m like “Ermmm…right…” -- Like you said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

    Someone can be as beautiful as a princess (or prince, can’t forget the dudes now can I?) if their attitudes are ugly…people often don’t see the beauty anymore.

    Great piece again!

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    • You know if someone hadn’t posted a story about her on FB I would never have read about her I don’t think as I don’t read the right wing rag known as the Daily Mail…but with FB you can’t escape. Plus my friend had the story under the heading “This is just bing bong delusion, car crash writing” and that was so funny I had to read.

      Yep you are right personality and attitude go a huge way to making up a person and how the world views them, and I think far more than looks. Well said Norbet.

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      • Bing bong haha. Glad you spotted it though as it provided cool reading material for us!

        Norbet? Now you got me thinking about sorbet…*shakes head*

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  • Garry,

    Believing oneself to be beautiful is confidence; believing that all share your assessment is conceit. As Dylan says,

    “There’s a whole lot of people crying tonight from the disease of conceit.”

    This Sam of a Brick appears to be one such person.

    Larry

    For me the most recent reigning beauty that I know of but don’t know personally is Katherine Jenkins. I’m just sayin!

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    • Sam of a Brick, that’s a new one Larry. Yep, Dylan had it right.

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  • Well I for one don’t think she’s all that! I think Cher is far more beautiful. winks. LOL Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have always felt true beauty is not aesthetic, but many would disagree with me I guess, and who doesn’t like something nice to look at? It does help to be attractive, but I draw distinct lines between attractive and real beauty. smiles. Just sayin… Nice article

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    • Who’s to say what is and isn’t beautiful, everyone has their own definition and it comes from our make up and psychology going back to childhood. Everyone’s take on beauty is different and if we all found exctly the same things attractive then it would be a pretty boring world.

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  • Excellent article, Gary. I just read hers and kept waiting for the punchline, like she was pulling some sort of prank. Sadly, she wasn’t. It doesn’t matter how attractive I thought she was before. She doesn’t look pretty now. It’s interesting how one’s personality does that.

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    • Janene that’s what I thought as well. I thought it was a late April Fool’s joke article. She’s making it work for her though.

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  • Great one, Garry. Sounds to me like this woman is possibly angling for a television show of her own -- and it’s probably something someone will offer her at some point, if not in the U.K, then definitely somewhere here in the States. People love crap like this. After reading this article, I “Googled” her to see what she looked like. It’s hard to comment without sounding superficial but I will say this: Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, indeed. 🙂

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    • It’s surprising to me that this article, with everything else going on in the world has garnered this much attention. The again it did appear first in the Daily Mail and this is pretty much their type of daily output. An article in the Guardian explains the Daily Mail’s overall output in this line, “Martin Clarke, Mail Online’s editor, recently explained his editorial ideology to Lauren Collins, staff writer for the New Yorker. When Collins asked why Clarke decided to run the agenda-setting story of a young actor suffering from acne, Clarke replied: “Well, we all just looked at the picture and went ‘Yuck’. Look, she’s an actress in 90210, and she’s spotty.”

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      • Wow. Unfortunately that’s where we’re at these days. It’s a game of “Let’s see who can be the best at tearing someone else to pieces.” If it isn’t that, then it’s these folks who will do ANYTHING for attention. The sad thing is that this is what the public wants. They complain about it often, but keep going back to the trough for more.

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  • True beauty lies within and after reading this and her own piece I see that she has probably never looked within herself -- ever. What a fascinating article on a bizarre woman. She’ll get her 15 minutes, but as outer beauty fades so will her day in the spotlight.

    Great piece, Garry.

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    • She has written some strange articles in the past, many I think written specifically to bring attention by using a point of view that she knows will annoy people, and especially annoy women, such as her article last year “I use my sex appeal to get ahead at work and so does any woman with any sense”….but her latest article seems to have hit the jackpot so I doubt she’s complaining.

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  • Anya

    Maybe she’s a sociology student and simply doing research for her thesis. There’s no way anyone could take themselves *that* seriously. We only do that with politics and religion.

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    • I don’t really care if someone thinks they are pretty or not, that’s no big deal but what’s been annoying people is that she said other women instantly hate her because of her beauty. Personally, I think she knew what she was doing when writing this article, she said she knew it would attract attention. As someone else said she found a way to ‘grab her 15 minutes of fame’ and is making some money from it.

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      • Anya

        Well, that’s my point. Maybe she doesn’t even really believe what she’s saying -- she could just be studying how people react to stupid shit. It would make more sense to me, but then again, it takes all types to make up the world. I honestly don’t care. She hasn’t caused me any harm by it.

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        • You could say she hasn’t caused any harm but you could also sat that her articles are adding to the typical ‘women hating’ articles that are a staple of the Daily Mail. One of her previous articles was, “I use my sex appeal to get ahead at work and so does any woman with any sense”. With women having to fight to get the vote in the past and be seen as equals in the workplace this sort of crap will play into the perceptions of the ‘women should know their place’ type of men who still, unfortunately, exist.

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        • And get some poetry on Miss P 🙂

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  • Anya

    I think people’s reactions contribute just as much. You know how toddlers who fall take their cue about how to react from their parents? When parents fuss and coddle and rush to console, kids learn to freak out every time they fall. If women aren’t paying attention to the Daily Mail, it has no power to affect how they perceive themselves or others. I just can’t help thinking she kind of enjoys the reactions and indignation her comments are garnering.

    And I’ve been trying to get some writing done. Every day is the longest day lately. But I’m trying!

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    • You are correct in that point indeed. You just need to check out the showbiz section in the Daily Mail to see the women baiting going on, really terrible right wing piece of trash paper.

      And again, get writing, no excuses 🙂

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  • This woman is completely off her rocker. It was reported that she spent over 30,000 pounds on psychics, and divorced her first husband solely on the advice of one of the mediums. Additionally, she is now with a man who will divorce her if she gets fat, and once locked her in a car until she changed into a different outfit. To say her sense of reality is warped is an understatement.

    I’m so intrigued by people who are so focused on their supposed outer beauty, but fail to recognize how ugly their insides are.

    I’m also going to come right out and say it-- this woman is NOT attractive enough to be hit on my every single guy in any given room. PUH-LEASE.

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    • Tell it like it is Jen 🙂
      Personally i’m more moving towardsd the idea that she isn’t actually a journalist and is a comedian trying to go the Sarah Silverman route, I love Silverman, don’t think it’s going to work for Brick.
      Her husband is a laugh a minute though, great picture of him standing next to Brick with a rifle prepared to shoot anyone who comes near his wife.

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