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Mirrors in the Soul.

[media-credit id=3 align=”aligncenter” width=”554″][/media-credit]You know, every now and then I read something that just sticks in my mind for a long time. Simple because it slightly changes the way I look at my surroundings. Seth Godin mentioned in one of his newsletters how people, who see someone wearing a similar outfit, wave at each other. How pregnant ladies feel a connection and wave at each other. He said that they are not actually waving at each other, but they are waving at themselves.

Ha!

I imagined tiny little mirrors reflecting bits and pieces of myself, what I like and how I look into my surroundings. And whenever there’s a match, it lights up. So, of course I pondered even more and thought: Do we always seek for ourselves in others? With the word ‘seek’ I don’t mean like soul searching type of things or looking for the ‘real’ you in someone else. If you’re doing that, the last place you should look is someone else, as the real you is probably hiding within yourself right? Okay, that aside…I mean more like looking for instant familiarities. Sometimes it’s just a similar hair style, similar shoes or a similar bag. You glance and you smile, because it’s familiar.

They say first impression is made in five seconds right? So maybe it’s true, maybe in those few seconds that I glance at someone there’s recognition and I glance at myself. Well, smile, I won’t be waving out of the blue and scare them.

Let’s have a look at my art. Do I see myself when I paint my characters? I hear more often that people see pieces of me in my art and the majority of these people don’t even know me in person. I’ve been called a lot of Disney nicknames when I was growing up and people still make a reference to a cartoon when they see me. Now if only I had some superpowers…

Often artists mention that they struggle to find their own style; a style that whenever people see it, they know it’s from you. For me, this softness that I add in my drawings and that people recognize, this has always been there. I couldn’t draw harsh lines to save my life and when I had too, I just had to put in a lot more effort and it didn’t feel natural. The more I draw, the more I realize that you really have to stay true to yourself if you want to have a connection with your art. A genuine connection, as people do sense this whenever they look at your work. As a dreamer, I tend to make things prettier in my mind than it is in real life. I tend to create worlds that don’t exist. However to bring this all to life, I capture feelings, expressions and elements that I love to see and that I experienced in one way or the other. It really is a mix between reality and the dream world.

So in a way I do smile at myself when I create my own art. I do peek in the little mirrors that are reflecting memories, feelings and expressions. If I couldn’t recognize myself in my own work, if I couldn’t make a connection to it, I wouldn’t be painting with my entire being. It wouldn’t come from heart.

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Tahira Lubrano, also known as TJ, was a Master Sociology student, but now she is chasing her dreams as an artist. You can find ramblings and observations surrounded by her own illustrations at her blog A Look in a Creative Mind. Everything is magical there and you are most welcome to float along and wander around her imaginative world. View My Profile

  • http://petearmetta.wordpress.com/ Pete Armetta

    I love this! It’s one of my favorite subjects and I think about it a lot (and talk to the people close to me a lot). How we need our mirrors, we need to see ourselves. And we don’t when we become isolated and often get into a melancholy. I do see myself in those around me, in my writing and in my art.

    And I don’t want to forget what I see when I LIKE what I see. :)

    Great piece of writing, very thoughtful and self-aware I think TJ.

    Pete

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Thanks so much :)! Really happy you enjoyed this article. I got more aware of this because of my studies, so they are good for something hehe. It’s easy to live life on an automatic pilot and forget about a lot of things. Of course one needs to find a balance in the pondering & peeking and actual living life haha. Thank goodness for writing huh :)

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  • http://www.momsarefrommars.com Janene Murphy

    Very cool post, TJ. It really gives me something to think about. I don’t think I’m attracted to people who look like me in a specific sense, but if I see a middle-aged woman who dresses in my sort of style I do assume she has more in common with me than someone who may look totally different than me. That’s what I like about the internet. Much of that washes away. (Love the painting, BTW)

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Grazie!!! It’s funny how you automatically start wondering how much more in common a person like that can have right? I find it very interesting. Being on the web really gave it a new twist as you get to know people through words, a picture and in some cases art haha :)

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  • http://thetrumpetsummons.blogspot.com/ Larry Conley

    TJ,

    I thoroughly enjoy your articles! Your pondering of the creative process and its implications is fascinating.

    At other times, I have mentioned that your discussion of drawing and painting seems to me to be applicable to writing as well. I don’t know if everyone feels the same way, but I can see my own experiences and musings in much of what you write.

    To use your phrase, “instant familiarities” -- I think this confirms your premise. In addition to being enchanted by your finished art, I am enthralled by your open consideration of the source of artistic productivity.

    Thanks for another intriguing and engaging essay.

    Larry

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Larry, your comments are always so thoughtful and yes, you’ve said it before and I’m still humbled by it. Your articles are always interesting and insightful, so for you saying that, is humbling :) Grazie Mille!

      By finding links and connection in what I used to study and what I’m doing now…it gives it all a deeper meaning and it’s interesting for me and hopefully everyone else as well! There is more to art, just like there is more to life right :)

      Big thank you, Larry! (waves)

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      • http://thetrumpetsummons.blogspot.com/ Larry Conley

        T J,

        I shared the last two articles with my one son’s best friend who is currently in college and studying art. His name is will and he and I had been talking about how long it takes to finish a creative work whether it is drawing or writing.

        I mentioned to him how you muse about the creative process and your own development and shared that you and I have noticed commonalities.

        I hope he lets one or the other of us know his reaction. If all goes well, he might become a follower of your postings.

        Take care as ever,

        Larry

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        • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

          Oh how lovely, Larry :) Thank you! I hope he gets back with either of us! I’d love to hear what he thinks.

          Have a lovely day!!

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  • http://castlehearttimes.blogspot.com/ Dani Heart

    I never have given this idea much thought… but now that you bring it up…. it makes perfect sense. smiles. Well done.

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Haha lovely :) Thanks so much, Dani!!

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  • http://www.tiredofpreviews.com Katy Kern

    TJ -- connections are so important, aren’t they? Lovely article :-)

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      They are indeeeeeed :) Thank you so much!

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  • http://www.garrycrystal.blogspot.com/ Garry Crystal

    Another great one from Lubraners. It is true re the mirrors, if your work has something of you in it then usually other people will also be able to relate to it and enjoy it more and you will gain a larger audience. Speak directly via the mirrors.

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Bowl of Cereal again…

      “Speak directly via the mirrors”…I like that and I have a funny image in mind now haha :) Grazie Garry!

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  • Cher Duncombe

    Sweet TJ, I see you as gently flowing in your own realm as your illustrations are. I am drawn to individuals, who on the surface at least, are quite different from me. But if I look closer, as you suggest, there are probably more similarities than I might have thought! :)

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Float, float, floating around!! haha. I know what you mean, I have a friend who on the surface comes across as tough girl and some people were afraid of her. They did ask me how we were friends as we were so different. What they didn’t know is that we had more in common and she wasn’t that bitchy as they thought she was haha. It’s funny how it can go and sometimes quite scary how quickly people label each other!! Thank you so much!! <3

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  • http://sipsofjenandtonic.com Jen and Tonic

    I can totally see you in your art!! The TJ I know and the characters you draw match up. Maybe it’s that your art gives me an impression of who you are as opposed to the other way around?

    I think it’s true that we gravitate towards people will outer likeness to ourselves. We automatically assume we’d have a lot in common. Oddly, I’ve found I have more in common with those I NEVER would have guessed would share interests with me.

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Yaaaaaaaay! I think you’re right, though I never really realized how much I put things from myself into my art until people started mentioning it haha. But yes, you do see glimpses of me :) It’s so funny how the art developed itself in a short amount of time.

      Aren’t you always a bit shocked when you find out how less you really have in common with the people you think you have lots in common with? It’s always like a small reality hit, that you shouldn’t just assume anything based on automatically assuming haha!

      Grazie Mille :)

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  • http://www.baldychaz.com Baldychaz

    I love your art as you know mate, guess its got to be a reflection of you a bit. I have to be nice and kind to people for a job and I think my writing is so dark as it allows me to express that side of me.

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Ciao Baldy! I know you like it and it’s so awesome! You’re Mr. One Curl hehe :) Thank you! It’s so good to have an outlet as people have so many sides to them. So keep on writing!!

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  • http://itsalwaysfriday.blogspot.com/ Bill Friday

    TJ,

    When I see your art, the one thing that strikes me first has always been, “I so wish I could do what YOU do.” My second thought is, “I am so drawn (no pun intended) in by what I’m seeing before me.” I think that in itself is the expression of “the mirrors” you’re talking about.

    It is instant, and it is unmistakable.

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    • http://tjlubrano.blogspot.com/ TJ Lubrano

      Bill, thank you so much :) Haha funny pun hehe. I do want to draw people in with what I do, because by doing so you know that there is some kind of connection between them and the illustration(s). And for me, that is so important. Plus I can expand my empire as well. Oh. Maybe I can use your line “It is instant. It is unmistakable…it is TJ” *cues music*

      Grazie, Bill!!

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