Throwing Away Talent.
“Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should”~ Seth Godin
[media-credit id=3 align="aligncenter" width="522"][/media-credit]The littlest of sentence can start a ponder process in my brain. I already mentioned (at least I think I did) that the ability to draw runs in the family and the person I always looked up to for this ability is my uncle.
Ever since I was little, I wished I could draw like him. To me, he is an amazing artist and since I never was at his level when I was younger, I never realized I could do more with my drawing as well. He was so good at it and it wasn’t his career, so why would I even bother to do more with it?
Yeah. It’s quite easy to talk yourself out of something by thinking I will never be as good.
I pursued my other interests and went to piano and ballet lessons. However, as soon as you drop out of something you’re quite good at, you hear things like ‘Oh she’s wasting her talent’, ‘What a shame! He is so good at it’, ‘Oh no, she didn’t!’ and so on.
I had my fair share when I quit ballet and piano lessons. I really like ballet and I love the piano, but to actually muster up the motivation to be focused, study and practice for it…I lacked that. I tried to continue for a while though, especially with ballet. My teacher really believed I had to do more with ballet and I didn’t want to let my parents down. However, my love for it started to fade away. It became a chore and the fun was gone.
Back to drawing. As soon as I noticed that people liked my art, I had my uncle in mind. If I could make people happy with my art, he certainly could do this as well…right?
When we had an arty conversation, I said things like ‘You really should get back to it’, ‘Your skills are awesome’.
He mentioned that he wasn’t motivated enough, didn’t feel the passion for it or the urge to draw…
Then I realized that I did the same thing. I tried to think up arguments for him why he should pick up his drawing again. If he doesn’t want to or doesn’t have reasons why he should pursue it…who am I to push him into that direction? The fact that he can draw, doesn’t mean he has to do something with it. Plus, having the ability to draw is only one part of the package. You have to put in a lot of hours of hard work and dedication to make this work. Now, I don’t know whether he will start drawing again, but he did mention that I inspired him to look into it again. To inspire someone who always has inspired me…now THAT is one of the biggest compliments for me.
Personally, when someone has a certain skill, but isn’t actually doing something with it, I don’t consider it as a waste. Your heart has to be in it and when it gets difficult, most of the times a reminder of why you’re doing things different should be enough to get back on track.
I’m still wondering something though: when should you stop trying to help and motivate someone?
Sometimes one does need a reminder of why he or she should pick up e.g. a craft again. Sometimes they don’t. In the end you can only do so much for someone, because the real change starts with yourself. I strongly believe that if something is meant to be, it will keep stumbling onto your path until you can’t ignore it anymore.
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