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Dreams vs. Reality.

Why is it so difficult to start believing that your dreams can come true?

Ever since I was little, I had dreams. Besides the regular daydreaming about superpowers and magical worlds, I had dreams about my own restaurant, baking shop or that of being an artist or writer.

I recall having a conversation with a friend during lunch time. It was during my second college year and we were talking about what we wanted in life and what “dreams” we had. At the time, I already knew that I wouldn’t pursue a job in my field, at least not for long. I mentioned my dreams of doing more art-wise and with baking. Maybe open a little restaurant where the walls are filled with art, but with a nice cosy atmosphere and tasty goodies and drinks.Something like that. It was pretty known in my friends circle that I could draw pretty well and I had a huge love for baking and cooking. I was still writing my stories and doing more with art, but I didn’t make the final decision to fully pursue it yet.  She was already impressed with that little more effort I put into my work and mentioned that she admired my will to work for what I wanted. To go after my dreams. Without thinking, I replied “but you can do it too! You just have to work for it and spend time on it!

I know that there are a lot of factors to be taken into consideration before someone takes a leap of faith. However, I feel that for a lot of people, dreams are just that, dreams. A place where everything is possible; where you can hide from the real world. There’s no judgement or rules. After all, you created it, right? It’s easier to think about stuff that isn’t there, even though you’d love for it to be real.

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Walt Disney once said, “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them”. What would happen if the dreams would become real?

Cracks would appear in your perfect dream world. Why? Reality seeps in and you become vulnerable. You become vulnerable, because you have to fit your dream in the real world. The real world is filled with rules and definitions on what’s right or wrong and even though it is your dream, others will apply their rules and thoughts in your dream world. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, because from some people you can learn. Unfortunately, there are  people who will do everything to make you feel stupid and silly and make the dreams vanish into thin air. I like to think they are, The Ignorant Villains. That’s what makes it difficult I think. You lose a bit of that safety and control and with those villains around…it can be difficult to stand your ground. It was the same for me. I bundled a few of my dreams and brought them to real world. It was beyond scary to make that first step as I was surrounded by doubts and uncertainty. I still feel like this at times. As pretty as my painted world is for others, I know I have to find my way so I can succeed to the level that I want. Before people mention, “You have the talent. You will succeed!“, I’d like to point you to my article on The Indie Chick’s site, Learn and Never Quit. And, I thank you for saying that.

Doesn’t having a dream in the real world, beat the safety of having your dream in the dream world? If you ask me, there’s something pretty magical to have a thought/idea become a dream and then that dream becoming reality. You’re like a magician making things come to life!

*waves around with a wand*

What I’m trying to understand is why people get stuck at the “Oh I wish I could go for my dreams” or the “if I was younger, I would have gone a different direction“. I wonder what the real reasons are for people to keep their dreams in a safe bubble. Some reasons I know, like fear plays a part and society has a firm grasp on the way people think and act in life. Laziness can be a reason as well. Let’s face it, for the majority of the people, “capturing dreams” is not a walk across a bed of rose petals. You have to work hard for it.

I have plenty of dreams in my world and some will just stay that. However, a few have to be in the real world. I don’t want to be a dreamer with my eyes closed. There are plenty of dreamy wonders to be seen and to be created when you are wide-awake.

You don’t want to miss those, right?

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Tahira Lubrano, also known as TJ, was a Master Sociology student, but now she is chasing her dreams as an artist. You can find ramblings and observations surrounded by her own illustrations at her blog A Look in a Creative Mind. Everything is magical there and you are most welcome to float along and wander around her imaginative world. View My Profile

  • Larry Conley


    When one puts one’s dreams into action, one risks the possibility of defeat. As long as they are dreams, one has the kernel of hope. If one goes for it, a win may result and that is magnificent. Unfortunately, defeat is a real possibility. People often resist the exposure of their hearts’ desires to irreversible loss.

    I have a dream that America and Americans will be the country and people they might and ought to be. I am doing my small part to bring this about. At this time, I think the tide is running against me. Nonetheless, I am in this effort while breath yet draws.

    Great piece!


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    • Hi Larry!

      Thanks so much for reading! I published this one on my site, but since it attracted so much attentionI figured to share it here too as I slowly make my way back to EP again.

      Defeat is definitely a real possibility, but you have to have the option to say that you at least tried, right?

      You’re indeed doing your part for your dream. That’s all you can do and you can at least say that you did your best. 🙂

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  • Cher Duncombe

    Sweet TJ, your art takes us to whimsical, fanciful places and endears you to all who see it. I have a beautiful cupcake painting of yours in my kitchen and every time I look at it, which is often, I smile and think of you. That’s what art does. It makes us smile, ponder or feel any range of emotions.

    May you continue to always follow you dreams. Your courage in pursuing art enriches us and makes the world a happier place. You be happy too! 🙂 xoxoxo

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    • Aww thanks so much, lovely Cher. I recall the cupcake print I gave you! That’s been such a long time ago already, huh? Time flies for real. I just told Larry that I used this piece to slowly make my way back to EP again. I do love it that people feel a sense of whimsy and magic when they see my art and I wouldn’t be here without the support of many of you. It goes hand in hand really and I’m ALL for a happier world. If I can do my part with my art than I’m happy. 🙂 xoxo!

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  • I think the people around you will do anything to kill that dreams. Perhaps they mean well and they don’t want you disappointed. Or perhaps they are jealous they gave up on their dreams a long time ago. Thank you for sticking in your dream and be a source of inspiration to everyone.

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  • So glad you shared this one again, TJ. I recall reading this before and was completely inspired by it -- especially learning the phrase you beautifully coined, The Ignorant Villians. What a perfect term for those who aren’t supportive and who actually try to stop you from pursuing your dreams in your reality.
    Never stop believing in yourself. And never stop creating all the magic, TJ. 🙂

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